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joyful journey Creating a more Leave them with some magic. Have you ever been really upset or just down in the dumps? Who pops into your mind; who’s that person that can always make you smile or laugh, that you know will help ease your mind and lift your spirits? Chances are, for your loved one, you’re one of those people. For someone with dementia, those feelings of anxiety, anger or frustration can develop quickly and due to the disease, they are no longer equipped to deal with • “You look comfortable here, Mary. May I sit down and join it on their own. Remember that, if you handle the moment you?” correctly, you can possess a powerful calming effect on your • “I brought these homemade cookies, they’re my grandma Jo’s loved one. Your role is to be the person that always has those recipe. Would you like one?” “magic words” to help ease your loved one’s mind and reset his • “I’m going to sit here by the window and enjoy this view and or her mood. Here are some examples of phrases you can try: my lemonade. Would you like to join me? In Jolene Brackey’s book “Creating Moments of Joy”, she reminds • “Don’t worry, I’ll take care of...” us “What triggers their memory is not what we say, but what we • “If you need anything, just let me know. I’ll be here all day.” put in their hands. What they touch, see, smell and hear helps • “We’ll figure this out together.” them connect their memories. Every time you visit put ‘something’ • “I couldn’t have done it without you!” in their hands.” Brackey goes on to further describe some of these • “You’re so special. I’m glad we’re here together.” “things” to bring, that can help you create a moment of joy for your loved one: There are countless ways to enhance the moments you spend with someone with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. Remember, • Something to share: a flower, variety of garden seeds, a the average memory retention for someone with mid-stage present, postcards, old photos Alzheimer’s is 7 to 10 seconds, which means you literally have • Something to smirk about: a love letter, a book of jokes a just moments that he or she will retain what you just said or silly mystery item, a funny picture did. You must learn to capitalize on those moment, to trigger • Something to nibble: fruit, popcorn, Cheetos, bread, the feelings that will allow you to create better moments that homemade cookies can string together to make better days for everyone. For more • Something to play with: a soft bouncy ball, a balloon to bat, information and tips, join the Edgewood Bismarck Dominion a noodle to swath others with, two squirt guns, bubbles to team at their next event: blow • Something to hear (bring headphones): birds singing, familiar songs, their favorite person or child’s voice, a Broadway or radio show • Something to smell: lilacs, bacon, cinnamon rolls, lotion Tues, Sept 3 at 6:30pm & Thurs, Sept 5 at 1pm PART 5 of a 6-part discussion series Creating a More Joyful Journey - Enhanced Moments Part 5 of Edgewood Bismarck Dominion’s 6-part book discussion series will explore how to make the most of each moment and interaction, because in each moment there is an opportunity to create a better one. Discover how to do this. If you are the loved one or caregiver for someone with dementia, it’s important to understand that you cannot control the disease you can only control your reaction to it. The sooner you make this realization the sooner you can let go of conventional expectations and adjust your communication and reactions to appropriately match the current abilities of your loved one. When words are no longer your loved one’s primary communicative tool, you can learn to make the most of each moment, creating true connections and enhancing each experience by triggering all the senses. You will also quickly learn there’s no winning an argument with someone with dementia, we cannot reorient them to “our reality”, we must enter their reality. In other words, they’re right and you’re wrong, every time. If they’re right every time there’s nothing to disagree about, this helps stress levels remain low and spirits high. Introducing yourself to someone you’ve known for decades. One of the days families dread the most is the day when their loved one no longer recognizes them. Imagine (or maybe you’re already living it) your spouse of 60 years doesn’t recognize you anymore, or your mom doesn’t realize you’re her daughter, she thinks you’re just another friendly visitor. How would this make you feel? How would you even talk to and connect with him or her anymore? Enhanced Moments - Two Sessions! Live their reality Once you’ve made that initial connection and your loved one is feeling comfortable, it’s time to join their reality. To ensure the most positive outcomes we must live their truth. The memory care experts at Edgewood Bismarck Dominion suggest a few tips that The effects that dementia has on the brain and the related may help: outward symptoms they cause are irreversible. No matter how hard we try, we cannot bring back their short term memory or the • Watch for signs your loved one is giving as to what reality he person they were before the disease. Saying things like “I’m your or she is in currently – asking for mom and dad, looking for daughter Mary. Don’t you remember me?” or “Just try harder; I’m young children or siblings, talking about work, etc. sure you’ll get it.” are counterproductive, as it can cause feelings • Talk about what he or she can talk about; join in the memory of frustration, shame and defeat. Instead, encourage yourself and story and others to let go of conventional expectations and adjust your • Don’t attempt to reason or argue, rather meet the person communication and reactions to appropriately match the stage where he or she is, and create conversation around a topic your loved one is at. that is present to him or her If your loved one no longer recognizes you in the lifelong role you’ve always held of spouse, child, grandchild, etc. it doesn’t mean you can’t still connect in other ways. Start by introducing yourself, then you’re no longer a stranger. Use his or her name (everyone likes to hear their name plus it could make them feel more comfortable, like they know you) and offer something you know he or she will like or make a polite comment or gesture, for example: • Join the Edgewood Bismarck Dominion team for part 5 – Enhanced Moments – of their 6-part series of engaging discussions using Jolene Brackey’s popular book “Creating Moments of Joy Along the Alzheimer’s Journey” as a guide. Enhanced Moments will explore how to make the most of each moment and interaction, because in each moment there is an opportunity to create a better one. Discover how to do this. All attendees will receive a COMPLIMENTARY copy of the newly revised and expanded 5th edition of “Creating Moments of Joy”. Please join the Edgewood team at any point during the series, discussions will be independent of each other and based on sections of the book as well as stories, questions, challenges Focus on how the person is feeling; actions may be forgotten, and solutions shared by attendees. but feelings remain Quality over quantity, every time. Quality connections don’t only come from long conversations and drawn out visits. Many families express feelings of guilt or believe they “owe it” to a loved one to spend hours visiting. Remember, someone with dementia will not remember if you visited for 5 Assisted Living & Memory Care | RSVP 701.258.7489 minutes or 4 hours, yet she will be left with the warm feelings 3406 Dominion Street, Bismarck | edgewoodhealthcare.com your visit created, which can be accomplished in just moments.